It’s not always easy to stay calm, cool and collected- let alone happy- when your 3.5 year old is losing it because you used the blue plate instead of the red plate! Reminding yourself of the “why” behind the “wahhhh” will help you to be the happiest mama you can be. So why should you be happy when your child is upset?
- They Feel Confident & Loved | Your child knows that you love him/her no matter what and feels confident enough to express emotions to you without fear of rejection. Having open lines of communication is very important throughout the years.
Be happy that your child is comfortable in your presence and feels your unconditional love.”
- Their Brains Are Developing | If you suggest that it’s time to play outside, your toddler is basically hard-wired to say “NO! Inside!” They are simply growing and expressing power and control over situations. That’s a good thing, right?
Be happy that your child is eager to be independent and is developing on target!
- It’s an Opportunity to Stay Calm | See how calm and serene you can remain amidst a tumultuous tantrum. You are in control of your emotions and it’s important that your little ones see you as unruffled.
Be proud of yourself and happy that you are able to set this example for your child, while refraining from giving attention to this behavior.
- It Could be Worse | Yes, tantrums are frustrating, seemingly non-nonsensical and often infuriating – but it could be worse! Your child is lucky that her greatest concern is that her sister grabbed her favorite toy. All of her basic needs are met and she feels safe and secure in her environment.
Be happy that you have provided this sense of security for your child.
- Communication Sensation | Your child is learning to communicate effectively – and that’s no easy task! Sometimes a 2-year-old’s efforts at communication are adorable…sometimes, not so much. But know that every step of the way, through tears and laughter, your baby is growing up right before your eyes. Understanding that language skills are at the early stages of development can help you empathize with your tot’s point of view.
Be happy that your child is learning the skills she will need to navigate the world.
Staying calm and maintaining a positive disposition can be difficult in the presence of a wailing child. The good news? Tomorrow is always a new day and a fresh opportunity will arise for you to be the happiest mama you can be, challenges and all!