If your friend, sister, or colleague delivers her baby by Caesarian, you may wish to bring her a special gift. If it was planned, she likely researched what she would need in advance. However, if it was an emergency, she is likely in for a longer recovery and hospital stay than anticipated. Wondering what to bring a friend who just had a c-section? I’ve got it all laid out for you below.
I am a proud c-section mama! I’ll spare you the details, but my first was a shock to me; complicated and unplanned at 3am – and then babies 2 & 3 were planned with the utmost precision. People often ask me what to do to help a friend who just had an unexpected c-section. Perhaps, like me, she skipped that section in her birthing books, assuming it would never happen to her! Many births do not go as planned, but having an unplanned c-section can certainly be a shock to both body and mind. Or, maybe she knew it was going to be a c-section and you would like to help her out but aren’t sure how.
Wondering what to bring your friend who just underwent majors abdominal surgery to bring her child into this world? Here are a few ideas:
If you visit while she’s in hospital:
- An extra long iPhone cord. She won’t be able to hop out of bed so having a cord that reaches her in her hospital bed will be very much appreciated!
- Some big ol’ granny panties – she’ll want to wear something that goes over and protects her new warrior scar!
- A post-partum support belt – she’ll find the pressure helps things feel much more comfortable
- Some cute night shirts (choose breastfeeding friendly ones if she’s nursing)
- If she is planning to nurse, some lactation cookies and coconut water will be nice to have on hand in the hospital as well as at home!
- She’ll likely be there for a few more days than she originally planned. Come bearing lipgloss, some nice-smelling toiletries (I love the little Burt’s Bees kits!), and a pair of fuzzy warm socks or slippers.
- The biggest cup you can find for water! Did you know that c-sections make you crazy bloated? She’ll need to spend the next couple of weeks drinking lots of water, and since getting up and down is a chore, a large cup will be very useful!
- Some DVDs to watch in the hospital while she snuggles that sweet newborn!
- A home cooked meal – hospital food gets old, fast!
If you visit once she’s home:
- Meals, meals, meals.
- A binder full of take-out menus from local eateries
- A gift basket with some nice smelling lotions -if you’re close friends, you could include a healing ointment for her scar – Earth Mama makes a great one.
- If she has other kids, bring some special little activity books or toys for her other children! She will want to keep them as busy as possible those first few weeks and something as simple as stickers can really help her have something up her sleeve!
- Better yet – offer to take the older siblings to the park
- A gift certificate to a local house cleaning service
- Flowers – but be sure to bring them in a vase or as a potted plant so she doesn’t have to lift a finger
- Household necessities like toilet paper, dish soap and paper towel. Practical? Yes. Appreciated when it means she doesn’t have to do a run? Definitely.
- Offer to hold the baby while she showers, and ask if there is anything you can do to help things run smoothly while she recovers. She won’t be able to drive for a while so she may need someone to help in that department.
Of course, a little something for baby is always fun to ooh and ahh over, but sometimes it’s the mama that needs a little extra TLC!